10 December 2008

[Fwd: CPT Rob Yllescas]

I am reposting Dena Yllescas' very touching words below. I am repeatedly reminded of the strength of our individual troops. I am blown away by the strength of their families.



Posted: 09 Dec 2008 09:57 PM CST

Yesterday was Rob's funeral. It was beautiful. Again, the Patriot Guard showed up holding flags outside the auditorium and a bell was being rung. During the service they had a 16x20 photograph of Rob in uniform in front of a flag. I looked at it most of the service. That picture made it feel like he was right there. They played a slide show before and after the service. My friend Nancy is going to put it on here when she gets the chance so everyone can see it. She did an amazing job. Thanks, Nancy. After the service we went to the cemetary. The police were in front with the Patriot Guards on their bikes, then Rob, and then more Patriot Guards leading us to the site. It was so surreal that the 21 gun salute and presentation of the flag was for MY husband. I still can't believe he's gone. Even though I was there when he passed away, to me it feels like he's still deployed. So many people were there. It's just unbelievable the amount of support. I know that the girls and I are going to be ok because there are so many people that care. Afterwards we had a dinner and I was able to talk to some people who I hadn't seen in years who had traveled so far to say their final goodbyes to Rob. When I left the dinner, I was by myself. I drove up to his grave site. He had been buried and a flag was placed on top. Everything is so final. As much as I wish I could go back and undo the past, I can't. It's the most helpless feeling. But I know he's looking down on us and that gives me comfort. My brother called me and said that before they left town, he and his wife drove past to see Rob with their almost 4 year old daughter. She said "daddy, I see Rob flying away." Aaron said "What did you say, Megan?" "I see Uncle Rob flying away in the sky. He's with Jesus." Amazing. Later that evening, some friends of mine from Ft Hood came over to my parents. Their husbands are in Rob's unit. I swear, only fellow military wives can lift eachother up after the day we had. It ended up snowing. Well, before long one of the wives was making a snow angel and then we ended up in a full fledge snowball fight. When we were done, we sat in my parents hot tub and talked for a couple of hours. It was some much needed stress relief and I thank you for providing me that ladies. Tomorrow I leave for Ft Hood. They are doing a memorial service for Rob on Thursday and presenting the girls with a scholarship. I'm not taking the girls with me because they've been gone too much and Julia needs to get back to school. I'll be back on Saturday. It'll give me a chance to bring some more things from the house back to Nebraska.

There were several news stations that covered Rob's funeral. Here are a few links:

(I think those are right...I was doing them off the top of my head!)


Melinda said...

Your blog hasn't made me cry in awhile.... Cpt. Yllescas's family will be in my thoughts in the coming weeks (months?).

Thanks for sharing this with us. I've been wondering about him everyday as I do my daily blog read-through.

Deb Estep said...


Thank you for sharing the words of
Rob's wife Dena's words...
Strength INDEED !!!

Here is a link to Rob's online

Captain Robert Yllescas
Legacy Guestbook site:


I pray for Dena and her family.
When the whirlwind of this all settles down, and she has those moments of being alone, may she be uplifted and comforted.

Proud Air Force Mom
Proud Air Force MIL

Jen said...

Her strength is unbelievable- I would imagine that the daughters are going to grow up to be pretty amazing people.

My sympathies go out to all of his family and friends.